First Impressions — First Date questions

1What impresses you most on a first date?

• A sense of humour
• The way they look at you
• Confidence
• Good manners

2What do you notice first about someone?

• Their smile
• Their eyes
• Their tone of voice
• How they carry themselves

3How fast does your first impression form?

• Within seconds
• In a few minutes
• After an hour
• Not until the second meeting

4Is your first impression usually right?

• Almost always
• Most of the time
• Half and half
• I'm usually wrong

5What do you spot fastest in a person?

• Their energy
• Their clothes
• Their choice of words
• How they are with their phone

6What if you forget a new person's name?

• I just ask honestly
• I keep talking without using a name
• I ask someone else
• I find out later

7What do you watch for most on a first date?

• How they listen
• What they talk about
• How they treat the waiter
• How much they laugh

8What loses you in the first minute?

• Rudeness
• Non-stop talking
• Never looking up from the phone
• Turning up late

9How do you want to come across on a first date?

• Relaxed
• Sharp
• Funny
• Mysterious

10How long do you wait if they're late?

• Ten minutes
• Half an hour
• An hour
• I'll wait as long as they let me know

11Who starts the conversation on a first date?

• Me
• The other person
• We wait out the silence
• The venue takes care of it

12What do you do in a silence?

• I ask a question
• I crack a joke
• I enjoy the silence
• I check my phone

13What's your favourite first-date topic?

• Travel
• Childhood
• Work
• Films and music

14Which topic do you avoid?

• Politics
• Past relationships
• Money
• Family

15Which do you do more?

• I listen
• I talk
• I ask a question
• I crack a joke

16How much do you talk about yourself?

• Only if asked
• Plenty
• Just enough to intrigue
• Never

17They're telling a long story. What do you do?

• I listen with pleasure
• I jump in
• I stretch it out with questions
• I wait for them to wrap it up

18What's the best opening question?

• "How was your day?"
• "What do you do?"
• "Do you come here often?"
• "What did you watch last?"

19What if your joke falls flat?

• Another one right after
• I laugh it off
• I'd change the subject
• I try to explain it

20How do you like to keep in touch with someone new?

• Text messages
• Voice notes
• A phone call
• Video call

21Where should a first date be?

• A café
• Walking
• Food
• An exhibition or an event

22What kind of place do you pick for a first date?

• Somewhere quiet
• Somewhere lively
• Doesn't matter
• Outdoors

23What time should the date be?

• Not till the afternoon
• Late afternoon
• The night before
• Morning coffee

24Who picks the place?

• I pick
• Let them pick
• We decide together
• We decide on the way

25Who pays the bill?

• We split it
• Whoever invited
• I want to
• We take turns

26How long should a first date last?

• An hour
• Two or three hours
• Let it run into the evening
• I let it flow

27What do you bring along?

• Nothing at all
• A small gift
• An umbrella or a backup plan
• Phone and charger

28What do you do if it starts raining?

• We head inside
• We keep walking
• I head home
• I like it even more

29Should a mutual friend come too?

• Absolutely not
• Good for the first time
• They can join later
• Doesn't matter

30What do you do before a date?

• I pick an outfit
• I think about what to say
• I don't prepare at all
• I talk it over with a friend

31Do you show your excitement?

• I never let it show
• A bit leaks out
• I say it outright
• My silence gives it away

32Do you give compliments?

• Plenty
• In moderation
• Only in my head
• By turning it into a joke

33What do you do when you get a compliment?

• I say thank you
• It embarrasses me
• I make a joke
• I return it

34Where's your phone during the date?

• In my bag
• Face down on the table
• In my hand
• On the table, on silent

35Do you take photos?

• No
• Of the place
• Of the two of us
• Just of the food

36Do you text a friend during the date?

• No
• One word
• I tell them everything
• I'll tell them later

37How do you show you're not interested?

• I don't show it
• I leave early
• I say it outright
• I give short answers

38How do you show you like them?

• With my eyes
• With my questions
• I say it straight out
• I try not to show it

39What do you do when you're nervous?

• I talk too much
• I keep quiet
• I crack a joke
• I drink water

40What do you wear on a first date?

• My most comfortable self
• My sharpest look
• Somewhere in between
• Something I just bought

41Who sends the first message?

• Me
• They do
• Whoever thinks of it first
• If no one does, that's that

42How long do you wait after a date?

• I text the same evening
• The next day
• A few days
• I wait for them to write

43Who suggests the second date?

• Me
• They do
• We say it at the same time
• It depends

44Phone number or social media?

• The number
• Social media
• Both
• Neither, it'll happen naturally

45Do you hug on a first date?

• Hello and goodbye
• Only goodbye
• No
• Only if they start it

46Would you say you like them on date one?

• Yes
• I hint at it
• Never
• It depends

47How do you get home?

• Separately
• I drop them off
• They drop me off
• We walk together

48Who ends the date?

• Me
• They do
• It ends naturally
• Whoever checks the time

49When's the second date?

• Within a few days
• At the weekend
• The same week
• I'm in no rush

50What do you do if you get rejected?

• Say thanks and move on
• I try once more
• I dwell on it
• I forget straight away

51How do you feel if they look different from their photos?

• I don't mind
• I'm surprised
• I like it
• I trust them less

52When does your first impression change?

• On the second meeting
• When a mutual friend talks
• When I see them in a hard moment
• It never changes

53What are you most curious about on first meeting?

• What they do for work
• How they grew up
• What makes them laugh
• Who they live with

54How do people usually see you at first?

• Warm
• Distant
• Full of energy
• Calm

55How do you introduce yourself?

• I just give my name
• With a joke
• I start with my work
• By asking a question

56Do you share your first impression with friends?

• I tell them at once
• If they ask
• I keep it to myself
• I wait for the second meeting

57How do you tell they're interested in you?

• From their questions
• From their eyes
• From their body language
• I can't tell

58What if they seem very nervous?

• I find it sweet
• I try to put them at ease
• I get tense too
• I don't notice

59How do you feel if they're very different from you?

• I get curious
• I look for common ground
• I struggle
• That's exactly what I want

60How does eye contact feel when you meet someone?

• It comes naturally
• I find it hard
• I hold it a long time
• I look away at once

61How do you feel when someone makes the first move?

• I love it
• I'm surprised
• It unsettles me
• I decide on the spot

62How do you ask someone out?

• Face to face
• By message
• By calling
• By inviting them to a shared plan

63Is asking for a number or asking someone out harder?

• Asking for the number
• Asking them out
• Both are easy
• Both are hard

64How does your first message to a crush usually go?

• A short hello
• A joke
• Long and heartfelt
• A direct question

65Do you send a second message if the first gets no reply?

• I write again at once
• I wait a few days
• Never
• I send a joke

66What worries you most about the first move?

• Being turned down
• Being misunderstood
• Seeming too eager
• Nothing worries me

67What if you hear from someone else that they like you?

• I ask them directly
• I get closer without showing it
• I ignore it
• I check with my friend first

68How do you turn down a date?

• I say it plainly
• I say I'm busy
• I don't reply at all
• I say let's stay friends

69What do you do when they say yes?

• I tell my friend
• I start planning at once
• I'm quietly delighted
• I panic a little

70How do you approach someone you like in a crowd?

• I go straight over
• I catch their eye
• I look for a mutual friend
• I don't approach at all

71When do you usually arrive for a date?

• Half an hour early
• Right on time
• A few minutes late
• I'm always late

72How do you choose where to meet?

• Somewhere I know
• Somewhere I've never been
• I read reviews
• I ask a friend

73Where do you want to sit in a cafe?

• By the window
• A corner table
• Outside
• The table in the middle

74How do you get to a date?

• On foot
• By car
• By public transport
• By taxi

75Whose side should the meeting place be closer to?

• Near me
• Near them
• Exactly halfway
• I never think about it

76What bothers you most about a venue?

• Noise
• Crowds
• Cold lighting
• Slow service

77Where should the second date be?

• The same place
• Somewhere completely different
• Outdoors
• Out of town

78Do you move on to a second venue?

• I stay in one place
• We always move on
• We carry on with a walk
• I let it flow

79Do you make a reservation for a date?

• Always
• If the place gets busy
• Never
• Let them do it

80Is the cinema right for a first date?

• Perfect for it
• No because you can't talk
• Yes if coffee follows
• Save it for the second date

81What do you do when you're cut off mid sentence?

• I pick up where I left off
• I fall silent
• I come back to it later
• I make it obvious

82What if they talk about something you know nothing about?

• I ask lots of questions
• I say I don't know it
• I listen quietly
• I pretend to follow

83Do you want the conversation deep or light?

• Deep waters
• Light and enjoyable
• Light first then deep
• It depends on them

84What if they never ask you a question?

• I find them uninterested
• I think they're shy
• I keep asking mine
• I cut the conversation short

85What do you share about yourself first?

• My work
• My family
• A hobby
• A funny story

86Do you prefer talking about the past or the future?

• Stories from the past
• Plans for the future
• Talking about today
• All of it mixed

87Do you interrupt people?

• Never
• When I get excited
• Often
• I interrupt then apologize

88What if you both start talking at once?

• I stop at once
• I say you go ahead
• I carry on
• We laugh it off

89How do you feel after a long conversation?

• Full of energy
• Tired
• In need of silence
• Wanting more

90What do you do when you disagree?

• I argue openly
• I say it gently
• I stay quiet
• I change the subject

91Do you talk with your hands?

• Constantly
• When I get carried away
• Never
• I've never noticed

92Do you laugh out loud?

• I roar with laughter
• I laugh quietly
• I cover my mouth
• I rarely laugh

93How do you sit on a date?

• Bolt upright
• Leaning back
• Leaning forward
• Constantly fidgeting

94What do you do while they talk?

• I look into their eyes
• I nod
• I chip in
• I glance around

95How much are you yourself on a first date?

• Completely
• Halfway
• I show my best version
• Not at all

96Do you check the time on a date?

• Never
• I sneak a look
• I check my phone
• I ask openly

97Do you make fun of yourself?

• Often
• Now and then
• Never
• Only when I'm at ease

98What about small gestures like holding a door?

• I like them
• I like doing them
• I find them unnecessary
• They never occur to me

99Do you touch the person you're talking to?

• It comes naturally
• I never touch them
• Only if they start
• Only when saying goodbye

100What do you do at a bad joke?

• I laugh anyway
• I smile politely
• I don't react at all
• I answer with a worse one

101What happens to the impression from texting once you meet?

• It holds up
• It gets better
• It falls apart
• It's built from scratch

102How does hearing their voice for the first time feel?

• Exciting
• Reassuring
• Nerve wracking
• It makes no difference

103When on a date do you see them most clearly?

• At the first hello
• In the middle of the talk
• When the bill arrives
• While saying goodbye

104Where are you most at ease with someone new?

• Over text
• On the phone
• Face to face
• In a crowd

105Does what a mutual friend says shape your impression?

• A great deal
• A little
• Not at all
• It makes me curious about the opposite

106How do you feel about dating someone much older or younger?

• It makes no difference
• It makes me more curious
• I'd be cautious
• I wouldn't try it

107What do you remember them by after a date?

• Their laugh
• A story they told
• Their tone of voice
• One word they used

108What do you think about yourself after a date?

• That it went well
• That I talked too much
• That I didn't open up enough
• I don't think about it

109What gives away what you think when you first see someone?

• My voice
• My eyes
• My hands
• How fast I talk

110What if they seem different on the second date?

• It's normal
• I'm glad
• I get confused
• I pay closer attention

111When do you suggest moving from texting to meeting?

• On the first day
• After a few days
• After a week
• Let them suggest it

112How do you say you want to meet again?

• I name a plan outright
• I say let's do this again
• I ask what they think
• I ask which day they're free

113How does your first message after a date begin?

• With thanks for yesterday
• With a joke
• With a new plan
• From where we left off

114Do you text right before a date?

• I write
• Let them write
• Only to confirm the place
• We don't text at all

115How do you save a new person in your phone?

• Just their name
• Their name and where we met
• With a nickname
• I don't save them

116Would you ask a mutual friend for help with the first move?

• I'd ask them to step in
• I'd only get information
• I'd handle it myself
• I'd keep them out of it

117How much do you text before a first date?

• A few messages is enough
• We text for days
• It goes on for weeks
• We meet right away

118Do you name the next step as you say goodbye?

• I say it plainly
• I hint at it
• I say nothing
• I wait for them to say it

119Do you follow them online after a date?

• That same evening
• A few days later
• Only if they follow me
• I don't follow them

120What do you think if no second date is offered?

• They weren't interested
• They're busy
• I'll offer it myself
• I don't dwell on it

121What if they suggest something you've never done?

• I'm in at once
• I look it up first
• I suggest something else
• I politely steer away

122If a date runs long who suggests dinner?

• I do
• Let them
• Whoever gets hungry
• We never move on to dinner

123How do you plan a date with someone out of town?

• I travel to them
• Let them come
• In a third city
• I fit it to a weekend

124How far would you travel for a date?

• Half an hour
• An hour
• I'd change cities
• It should be walking distance

125What do you do when the bill arrives?

• I reach for my wallet
• I say let's split it
• I wait a moment
• I've already settled it

126What if they insist on paying?

• I let them
• I insist too
• I say the next one's on me
• I turn it into a joke

127What would you suggest doing together?

• Cooking a meal
• Going to a workshop
• Riding bikes
• Playing a game

128What if the place you chose disappoints?

• We get up and go elsewhere
• I make do
• I make a joke of it
• I apologize

129Where do you like a date to end?

• With a walk
• At the front door
• Over dessert
• At the bus stop

130What if you run into a mutual friend mid date?

• I introduce them at once
• I say a quick hello
• I pretend not to see
• I invite them to the table

131What if the conversation goes dull mid date?

• I open a new subject
• I make do
• I turn it into a joke
• I think about leaving early

132Do you talk about a mutual friend?

• At length
• I mention them briefly
• I never raise it
• Only if they raise it

133Do you talk about the age gap between you?

• I ask outright
• I touch on it with a joke
• Only if they raise it
• It doesn't matter to me

134Do you revisit a subject from your texts in person?

• I raise it at once
• I look for a new subject
• I act as if I forgot
• I wait for them to raise it

135When does the conversation get deep?

• In the first half hour
• In the middle of the meal
• Just before parting
• On the next date

136How do you read a long silence mid date?

• A comfortable silence
• A bad sign
• We must be tired
• I don't read anything into it

137What should texting be like the day after a date?

• Long and flowing
• Short and sparse
• Voice notes
• Built around a new plan

138Is there something you wanted to say but couldn't?

• Always
• Sometimes
• Never
• I write it afterwards

139Do you ask about their family on the first date?

• I ask on the first date
• I leave it for later
• I listen if they bring it up
• I never ask

140How do you notice time passing when it's going well?

• When the place empties out
• When I check my phone
• When the waiter comes
• I don't notice

141What do you do first when you get home from a date?

• I tell my friend
• I message them
• I think it over at length
• I go straight to sleep

142What do you say goodbye with after a bad date?

• I say it honestly
• I glide past it politely
• I say see you around
• I say nothing

143How much do you think about the message the day after a date?

• I write what comes to mind
• I delete and rewrite it several times
• I consult a friend
• I don't write one

144How long does a date stay on your mind?

• It leaves at once
• Until the evening
• A few days
• It stays a long time

145What do you do if your phone rings mid date?

• I silence it and carry on
• I answer briefly
• I step outside to talk
• I don't even look

146How do you feel about dating someone far away?

• I'd gladly travel
• I'd try it once
• I'd find it hard
• I wouldn't start

147How long do you linger saying goodbye?

• I leave at once
• I stretch it a little
• I walk them to the door
• I stay until they've gone

148What do you do if you feel their interest fading on a date?

• I carry on the same
• I share less
• I ask outright
• I end it early

149When do you decide about a second date?

• The moment they walk in
• As the date ends
• When I get home
• The next day

150What do you tell a mutual friend who asks about the date?

• Everything
• Only the good part
• Nothing
• I say go ask them