Love — First Date questions

1Who should make the first move?

• Whoever wants to
• Me
• The other person
• It should just happen

2When do you say you like someone?

• Right away
• After a few dates
• Once they say it
• I don't say it, it shows

3How long should dating last?

• A few weeks
• A few months
• It can take years
• There's no set length

4What's the most impressive move?

• Really listening
• Surprising them
• Remembering a small detail
• Speaking openly

5How do you prefer to meet someone new?

• In real life
• Through an app
• A mutual friend
• Doesn't matter

6How many dates before you decide?

• One
• Two or three
• Five or six
• It's not about a number

7Meeting through a mutual friend?

• The most reliable way
• Too risky
• Doesn't matter
• I don't like it at all

8What do you do if the interest isn't returned?

• I back off
• I try once more
• I just ask outright
• I shut it down right away

9What do you do if the other person moves too fast?

• I quite like it
• It makes me uneasy
• I slow things down
• It depends

10Summer fling or long haul?

• The long haul
• A summer fling
• Either works
• Neither

11How often do you text in a day?

• Constantly
• A few times
• Morning and evening
• Short and sweet

12What do you think when they don't reply?

• They must be busy
• Something's wrong
• They just didn't feel like it
• I don't wonder about it

13How should heart-to-hearts happen?

• Face to face
• On the phone
• Over text
• While walking

14How do you show love?

• By saying it
• By doing things
• By making time
• Through touch

15How do you deliver bad news?

• Straight out
• Softening it
• In writing
• By putting it off

16Stay silent or speak up?

• Talking
• Stay quiet and think first
• It depends
• Writing it and not sending

17Surprise or a heads-up?

• A surprise
• Knowing in advance
• Small ones as surprises
• I don't like it at all

18When do you share your opinion?

• Always
• Only if asked
• Only if it won't hurt
• Rarely

19When you want to tell your partner something, how do you do it?

• A short call
• A long message
• Voice notes
• Face to face

20What do you need on a bad day?

• Just be there
• Leave me alone
• Getting me talking
• Making me laugh

21How does an argument end?

• By talking it out
• Over time
• With an apology
• Nobody remembers

22What do you do when you're angry?

• I keep quiet
• I talk
• I go for a walk
• I write

23Who apologises first?

• Me
• They do
• The one who's right
• Whoever caves first

24Would you leave an argument for the next day?

• Absolutely
• Never
• Sometimes
• Depends if I can sleep

25Do you raise your voice?

• Never
• Rarely
• Sometimes
• I lose it fast

26Does the same subject come back up?

• No, it's closed
• It comes back
• Sometimes
• I bring it up

27If you sulk, how long does it last?

• I don't do that
• Within a few hours
• For a day
• It lasts a long while

28How does making up happen?

• With a hug
• By talking it out
• With a joke
• With a gift

29Being right or making peace?

• Peace
• Being proved right
• Both
• It depends

30Do you consult a third person?

• Never
• My closest person
• My family
• Everyone

31What matters most in a relationship?

• Trust
• A sense of humour
• Freedom
• A shared life

32How much time together do you want?

• Every day
• A few times a week
• Weekends
• As much as we need

33Is a shared circle of friends a must?

• Essential
• That'd be nice
• Not necessary
• Better kept separate

34How do you feel about sharing passwords?

• Not necessary
• That's fine
• Essential
• We've never discussed it

35Are you open to surprises?

• I love it
• The small ones
• Never
• I want a heads-up

36How do you feel about a joint account?

• Keep them separate
• Make it joint
• A mix of both
• It depends

37When do you move in together?

• Early
• After a year
• Once married
• Never

38Should holidays be just the two of you or a crowd?

• Just the two of us
• With friends
• With the families
• Mix it up

39Should there be a pet?

• Yes, let's
• No thanks
• It depends
• I already have one

40Who does the planning?

• Me
• They do
• We take turns
• Nobody

41Do you talk about your exes?

• Openly
• Only if asked
• Very little
• Never

42Can you stay friends with an ex?

• You can
• You can't
• It depends
• From a distance

43Are you curious about their past?

• Very much
• A bit
• Never
• I listen if they tell me

44Do you follow your ex on social media?

• I don't follow
• I follow them
• I check now and then
• I block them

45Do you remember your first love?

• Every detail
• It's hazy
• Never
• I won't talk about it

46Do you repeat the same mistake?

• Never
• Sometimes
• Often
• Without realising it

47What did the past teach you?

• Patience
• Speaking openly
• Setting boundaries
• Not expecting

48Do you keep old messages?

• All of them
• Some of them
• I delete them
• I never look

49Forgive or forget?

• Forgiving
• Forgetting
• Both
• Neither

50Can you go back to an ex?

• Never
• That's fine
• Once
• It depends

51How much space of your own do you want in a relationship?

• Plenty
• A little
• None at all
• It depends on the period

52What makes you feel loved most?

• A hug
• A long conversation
• A coffee brought to me
• Hearing from them often

53How important are special days to you?

• Very important
• Keep it simple
• I forget them
• Only if the other person wants it

54How often do you expect a gesture from your partner?

• Every week
• On special days
• When I least expect it
• I don't expect gestures

55How should housework be shared?

• Down the middle
• Whoever is free
• Each does what they like
• With outside help

56How often should your partner go out with friends?

• As often as they like
• Once a week
• They should take me along
• Rarely

57At what stage do you meet the family?

• In the first months
• Within the first year
• When we get serious
• There's no rush

58Must you and your partner like the same things?

• Yes you must
• One thing in common is enough
• Difference is better
• It doesn't matter to me

59Which words do you most want to hear from your partner?

• I'm proud of you
• I'm here with you
• You're right
• I missed you

60What do you do when your partner hits a busy spell?

• I wait with understanding
• We work out a schedule
• I complain
• I get on with my own things

61What texting pace suits early dating?

• All day long
• In the evenings
• A few messages a day
• Whenever there's something to say

62What if someone you just met texts constantly?

• I like it
• I feel smothered
• I think they're rushing
• I match their pace

63How often do you want to meet while dating?

• Every day
• A few times a week
• Once a week
• Whenever it works out

64Is a like a sign of interest?

• Absolutely
• It means nothing
• That's how I do it
• I never notice

65When do you tell your friends about someone you're seeing?

• From day one
• After a few dates
• When it gets serious
• I never tell them

66Do you say what you're looking for?

• I say it from the start
• I say it in time
• Only if asked
• I don't know myself

67Do you video call while dating?

• Often
• Now and then
• Not until we've met
• I don't like it at all

68Who puts in more effort while dating?

• Usually me
• Usually the other person
• We take turns
• Neither of us pushes

69What are you most curious about while dating?

• How their day went
• Their past
• Their dreams
• What they think of me

70Who starts the talk about what you are?

• I do
• Let them start it
• It becomes clear by itself
• It needn't be had at all

71When should past relationships come up?

• On the first date
• After a few dates
• When things get serious
• They shouldn't come up

72How do you explain why your last relationship ended?

• In full detail
• In broad strokes
• In one sentence
• I don't explain

73What do you do with something left from an old relationship?

• I keep it
• I throw it out
• I go on using it
• I give it back

74What if you ran into your partner's ex?

• I'd wait to be introduced
• I'd say hello and move on
• I'd chat with them
• I'd keep away

75Do you carry habits from one relationship into the next?

• I do
• They carry over without my noticing
• I try not to
• Every relationship starts from zero

76Do you show your partner your old photos?

• All of them
• The ones I choose
• If they ask
• I don't show them

77What's hardest when a relationship ends?

• Saying the decision out loud
• Dividing the things
• The mutual friends
• Breaking the habit

78Who do you tell first after a breakup?

• My closest friend
• My family
• Nobody
• Everyone I run into

79How soon are you ready for someone new?

• Right away
• After a few months
• A long time later
• It happens by itself

80What if you let your ex's name slip?

• I apologize
• I pretend it didn't happen
• I turn it into a joke
• I explain myself

81How do you tell your partner about your day?

• Every detail
• Only what matters
• All at once in the evening
• Only if they ask

82What time of day do you want to talk to your partner?

• First thing in the morning
• At lunchtime
• After work
• Before bed

83What do you do first when you need to talk?

• I say let's talk
• I sit down next to them
• I go quiet
• I send a message

84Is it more jokes or deep talk between you?

• Jokes
• Deep talk
• We alternate
• Sitting in silence

85What if your partner is giving short replies?

• I ask what's wrong
• I write short replies too
• I switch to calling
• I don't read into it

86Do you send your partner photos during the day?

• Constantly
• Now and then
• Only the funny ones
• Never

87How does silence between you feel?

• Peaceful
• Dull
• Unsettling
• I need time to get used to it

88What do you make of being interrupted?

• It bothers me
• That's how talk flows
• I don't notice
• I cut in too

89What do you do when you want to say something sweet?

• I say it to their face
• I send a message
• I leave a note
• I show it without saying it

90How do you ask your partner for something?

• I say it plainly
• I hint at it
• I mix it with a joke
• I handle it myself

91What do your arguments usually start from?

• Tiredness
• A tone of voice
• Something forgotten
• An old subject

92What's your first reaction to criticism from your partner?

• I get defensive
• I think it over
• I take it to heart
• I give it straight back

93What does your apology look like?

• I say I'm sorry
• I give a hug
• I make up for it
• I turn it into a joke

94What angers you most in a fight?

• Their silence
• Their raised voice
• Their mockery
• Their being right

95What if an argument starts over text?

• I stop texting
• I write long messages
• I call straight away
• I wait until we're face to face

96How do you behave under one roof after a falling out?

• I don't speak at all
• I give short answers
• I act normally
• I leave the house

97What do you do when you realise you were wrong?

• I admit it at once
• I say it a little later
• I soften without admitting it
• I defend myself anyway

98What do you do about a problem with your partner's family?

• I talk to them directly
• I tell my partner
• I keep it inside
• I put distance between us

99Do you argue in front of others?

• Absolutely not
• I avoid it but it happens
• It makes no difference
• I blow up right there

100What do you need most after a fight?

• To be alone
• A hug
• An explanation
• Sleep

101What is love to you?

• A feeling
• A decision
• A habit
• A matter of luck

102How should a relationship begin?

• With friendship
• With attraction
• With long conversations
• With a shared interest

103How quickly do you get attached?

• Very quickly
• Within a few months
• It takes years
• It's different every time

104How much do you need to hear that you're loved?

• I need to hear it often
• Now and then is enough
• Their actions are enough
• It needn't be said

105What shows a relationship has got serious?

• Being introduced to people
• Making long term plans
• Being able to argue
• Being given a key

106What holds you back at the start of something new?

• Getting hurt again
• Getting attached too fast
• Losing my routine
• Nothing holds me back

107Are being in love and loving the same to you?

• The same thing
• Being in love is more intense
• Loving runs deeper
• I've never thought about it

108When do you know a relationship will work?

• On the first date
• After the first fight
• Once months have passed
• You never know

109What do you expect in the first weeks?

• To meet often
• To go slowly
• To speak clearly
• To let it take its course

110How many times can a person fall in love?

• Once in a lifetime
• A few times
• Countless times
• It depends on your age

111How do you tell when someone likes you?

• From their eyes
• From how often they text
• From the questions they ask
• I can't tell until they say it

112What are you like around someone you like?

• Quieter
• More talkative
• Funnier
• Exactly the same

113What if you're unsure whether they're interested?

• I ask them straight out
• I wait for a sign
• I pull back
• I ask their friend

114How open are you while dating?

• I say everything
• I hold half of it back
• I hint at things
• As open as they are

115Which stage of dating is hardest for you?

• Writing the first message
• The uncertain stretch
• Talking about myself
• Saying it's over

116How do you know a fling is over?

• The messages thin out
• Plans keep getting postponed
• I just know inside
• I never see it coming

117What's your excuse for the first message?

• A question
• A song or a video
• A straight invitation to meet
• I don't need an excuse

118Do you reply late on purpose?

• Never
• Sometimes
• Most of the time
• I'm late anyway

119What if they tell you they like you?

• I say it back
• I'm glad and stay quiet
• I freeze in surprise
• I ask for a little time

120What do you make of dating several people at once?

• Perfectly normal
• Up to a point
• Fine if it's been discussed
• Not for me

121When do you accept a relationship is truly over?

• When the words are said
• When the things are divided
• When I'm ready
• Months later

122What changes most in your life after a breakup?

• How my home runs
• My habits
• My circle of friends
• Nothing changes

123What do you do with your photos together?

• I delete them
• I move them to an archive
• They stay as they are
• I never posted any

124Would you take someone new to a place you went with your ex?

• Easily
• I wouldn't
• I'd say so first then go
• It wouldn't even cross my mind

125Who usually makes the decision to break up?

• I do
• They do
• We do together
• It ends without anyone saying it

126Can a person leave their past fully behind?

• They can
• They leave part of it
• They can't
• Only if they want to

127Do you always fall for the same kind of person?

• Always the same type
• Different every time
• I noticed it and changed
• I've never thought about it

128Would you message an ex on their birthday?

• I would
• I wouldn't
• It crosses my mind but I don't
• I don't remember it anyway

129What happens to mutual friends in a breakup?

• Everyone stays where they are
• They split in two
• I step back
• They drift away by themselves

130How do you feel thinking of past relationships?

• I'm glad I lived them
• I wish I hadn't
• I feel nothing
• It's still tangled

131How many times do you reread a message before sending it to your crush?

• I never reread it
• Once
• Over and over
• I have a friend read it

132What do you do when a chat starts dying?

• I open a new subject
• I suggest meeting
• I let it die
• I ask straight out

133What do you do while they talk about their past?

• I ask questions
• I only listen
• I tell mine too
• I change the subject

134Do you regret messages after sending them?

• Often
• Sometimes
• Never
• I try to delete them at once

135How do you clear up a misunderstanding?

• I explain at once
• I leave it to time
• I explain when asked
• I turn it into a joke

136Who ends the phone call first?

• I do
• They do
• We do at the same time
• Neither of us can

137Would you message someone who crosses your mind late at night?

• I write at once
• I wait till morning
• I write it but don't send
• I'd rather call

138What do you share that nobody else understands?

• Words we made up
• Inside jokes
• Nicknames
• We have nothing like that

139Do you use emoji when you text?

• Plenty of them
• A few
• None
• It depends who I'm texting

140How does eye contact feel while talking?

• I'm completely at ease
• I look away sometimes
• I struggle with it
• I hold it and they look away

141What do you do when their voice rises in an argument?

• I raise mine too
• I lower mine
• I stop talking
• I walk out of the room

142Who usually starts the argument?

• Usually me
• Usually them
• You can never tell
• Both of us at once

143How long does an argument have to run to count as long?

• Ten minutes
• An hour
• A day
• There's no set length

144What if the same subject comes up a third time?

• I accept it as it is
• I set a boundary
• I look for a solution
• I start questioning the relationship

145How do you feel when they fall silent mid argument?

• Relieved
• Angry
• Curious
• I fall silent too

146Do you trust decisions you make when angry?

• I trust them
• Not at all
• I review them later
• I don't decide when angry

147What if they walk out mid argument?

• I go after them
• I wait where I am
• I write to them
• I walk out too

148What does fighting do to a relationship?

• It brings you closer
• It wears it down
• It does nothing
• It depends on the dose

149Does an old fight affect your new relationship?

• Not at all
• It makes me cautious
• A great deal
• It affects me without my noticing

150Do you cite an old relationship in an argument?

• I do
• Never
• It crosses my mind but I don't say it
• I tell it without naming anyone