Social Circle — First Date questions

1When did you last see your family?

• This week
• Sometime this month
• It's been months
• We live together

2How do you keep in touch with your family?

• By video call
• By phone call
• By texting
• By dropping in unannounced

3How much do you think you take after your family?

• A great deal
• In some ways
• Not at all
• I'm the opposite

4How does your family act on first meeting your partner?

• They take them in at once
• They ask endless questions
• They keep their distance
• They comment afterwards

5What if your family said something negative about your relationship?

• I'd take it seriously
• I'd go my own way
• I'd argue
• I'd pretend not to hear

6Who takes the first step after a rift with your family?

• I do
• They do
• Nobody does
• It passes with time

7Are there subjects you never raise with your family?

• We avoid most subjects
• One sensitive one
• We talk about everything
• There are fewer over time

8How do you feel about living with your family?

• I could do it for years
• For a short spell
• Near them but separate
• Never

9How do big family gatherings feel to you?

• I can't wait for them
• Fun but tiring
• Like a duty
• I skip them if I can

10When do you tell your family about a decision?

• Before I make it
• After I've made it
• Only the big ones
• I never tell them

11Who calls whom in your family?

• I always call
• They always call
• We take turns
• We prefer texting

12What kind of bond do you want with your partner's family?

• One where we meet often
• Warm but at a distance
• A few times a year is enough
• Like my own family

13How do you treat your partner in front of your family?

• Just as usual
• More distant
• More attentive
• I try not to show anything

14Who knows you best?

• My family
• My closest friend
• My partner
• Nobody but me

15How would living far from your family feel?

• I'd be fine
• I'd miss them but go
• I'd rather stay close
• I already live far

16What do you bring when you visit someone?

• Something to eat
• A small gift
• Flowers
• Nothing

17What do you do before guests come over?

• I tidy the whole place
• I cook something
• I give it a quick once over
• I don't prepare at all

18How do you feel about unannounced guests?

• I'm delighted
• Surprised but I open the door
• It makes me uncomfortable
• I don't answer the door

19How closely do you follow a host's rules?

• To the letter
• I ask first
• I follow the host's lead
• I make myself comfortable

20How long do you stay when visiting?

• An hour is enough
• A few hours
• Until midnight
• The host decides

21How do you feel about someone staying the night?

• My door is open to everyone
• Only to those close to me
• For a couple of days at most
• I don't like it at all

22What do you do once the guests have left?

• I clear up straight away
• I leave it till morning
• I lie down and rest
• I think over what was said

23What if a guest walks into your kitchen?

• They're welcome to
• I'd ask them to help
• It would bother me
• I'd say I've got it

24Do you eat at the same table as your neighbour?

• We sit down often
• Only on special occasions
• We never have
• I'm the one who invites

25Do you thank a host afterwards?

• I message the same night
• I call the next day
• Saying it in person is enough
• It doesn't occur to me

26Have you ever been inside your neighbour's home?

• I go often
• Once or twice
• Never
• They come to us

27What do you do the first time you visit your partner's place?

• I look at everything
• I touch nothing
• I bring something
• I'm as relaxed as at home

28Do you check your phone while you have guests?

• Never
• Now and then
• It's always in my hand
• I put it on silent

29What matters most to you when hosting?

• A generous table
• A tidy home
• How the conversation flows
• That nobody gets bored

30How close do you feel to your neighbourhood?

• Close as family
• Familiar but distant
• I feel like a stranger
• I've just moved in

31What's your role in your group of friends?

• The one who makes the plan
• The one who cracks the jokes
• The one who listens
• The one who joins late

32How many close friends do you have?

• One
• Two or three
• A whole crowd
• I've never counted

33How far back does your oldest friendship go?

• To my childhood
• To my school years
• To the last few years
• They've all been replaced

34How far would you travel for your friends?

• To another city
• Anywhere in town
• If it's nearby
• Let them come to me

35Would you say it if you disliked a friend's partner?

• I'd say it plainly
• I'd hint at it
• Only if they asked
• I'd stay out of it

36How does joining a new group of friends feel?

• Very easy
• It takes time
• Exhausting
• I never try

37Do you want to join your partner's circle?

• Every chance I get
• Now and then
• If I'm invited
• My own circle is enough

38What do you do when a friendship cools off?

• I call them
• I wait
• I ask what happened
• I accept it

39What does a mutual friend add to a relationship?

• It builds trust
• It strengthens the bond
• It complicates things
• It adds nothing

40What do you mostly do with your friends?

• We share a meal
• We go out
• We talk for hours
• We only text

41How do you handle tension between your friend and partner?

• I step in
• I leave them to it
• I talk to each separately
• I never put them together

42How often do you call your friends?

• We talk every day
• Once a week
• When they come to mind
• They always call me

43What if you ran into an old friend after years?

• We'd sit down right there
• I'd ask how they are briefly
• I'd suggest meeting up
• I'd wave from a distance

44What do you do when your group starts arguing?

• I mediate
• I take a side
• I stay on the edge
• I leave the room

45What bond do you want with your partner's best friend?

• Like a friend of my own
• Enough to say hello
• Keep it distant
• We needn't meet at all

46Can your family see what you post?

• They see everything
• They see some of it
• They see none of it
• I have a separate account

47What if a relative takes issue with a post?

• I take it down
• I explain myself
• I don't care
• I hide it from them

48Does your family learn about your relationship from posts?

• I tell them beforehand
• They see it in a post
• They hear it from someone else
• They never find out

49Whose posts do you check first?

• My closest friend's
• My family's
• My partner's
• I don't look anyone up

50Would you unfollow someone close to you?

• I'd do it easily
• I'd mute them instead
• I couldn't bring myself to
• I don't follow them anyway

51What do you do before posting a photo of you both?

• I just post it
• I ask the person with me
• I keep faces out
• I never post it

52How do you feel when a relative tags you?

• I like it
• I'm embarrassed
• I ask them to remove it
• I don't even notice

53How does following your close circle's posts feel?

• It keeps me connected
• It makes me curious
• It wears me out
• It makes me feel nothing

54Does your family appear on your profile?

• They're in plenty of photos
• In a few shots
• Not at all
• My profile is private anyway

55Do you post old photos of you and your people?

• I post them often
• I only send them privately
• They stay in my archive
• I don't keep photos

56How do you get news of the people close to you?

• I see it in their posts
• They tell me themselves
• I hear it from mutual friends
• I find out when we meet

57Do you have a family chat group?

• Yes and it's busy
• Yes but it's quiet
• We message one to one
• We don't message at all

58Do you follow your partner's people online?

• I follow them all
• Only the ones I've met
• Only if they follow me
• I don't at all

59Do you check who can see your posts?

• I go through my list regularly
• I check now and then
• I never check
• It's public anyway

60What would your people do if you vanished online for a day?

• They'd worry right away
• They wouldn't notice
• They'd leave a message
• I'm rarely online anyway

61Would you bring your partner to a family gathering?

• At the first chance
• Once it's serious
• If the crowd is small
• I wouldn't bring them

62When do you arrive at an invitation?

• Right on time
• A little late
• I go early
• I'm the last to arrive

63What do you do at a table full of your people?

• I do the cooking
• I carry the conversation
• I sit to one side
• I play with the children

64What if your partner wants to go somewhere you dislike?

• I'd go along
• We'd drop in briefly
• They can go and I'll stay
• I'd try to talk them out of it

65How do you pick a gift for a celebration?

• I think it over for ages
• I buy it the last day
• I ask what they want
• I get everyone the same thing

66How many people make an ideal gathering?

• Just the two of us
• Four or five
• Around ten
• The more the better

67What do you do when you first meet your partner's family?

• I ask plenty of questions
• I mostly listen
• I try to help out
• I sit quietly

68What's the best part of a gathering?

• Seeing old friends
• Meeting someone new
• The long conversations
• The table itself

69How do you remember the special days of people close to you?

• I know them by heart
• I write them in a calendar
• An app reminds me
• I usually forget

70Do you bring your family and friends to the same table?

• It happens often
• On special days
• I keep them apart
• I've never tried

71What if the questions start pouring at a family gathering?

• I answer them happily
• I keep it short
• I change the subject
• I slip away

72How do you feel hearing about a gathering you weren't invited to?

• I take offence
• I get curious
• I'm relieved
• I don't think about it

73What do you do while your partner meets your friends?

• I stay right beside them
• I leave them to it
• I open a shared subject
• I prepare everyone beforehand

74Who do you spend the most time with at a party?

• The one person I know
• The people I've just met
• The host
• I move around the crowd

75Who talks more when you go to a party together?

• I do
• They do
• We take turns
• We're both quiet

76How much of your private life do you share at work?

• I tell them everything
• The broad strokes
• Only one person
• Nothing at all

77Do you bring work home?

• Every evening
• In busy spells
• Rarely
• I leave it at the door

78How much do you talk about work once you're home?

• I go on about it
• I sum it up briefly
• Only if I'm asked
• I don't talk about it

79Who arranges the meet ups in your group?

• Always me
• We take turns
• Always the same person
• It just happens

80How does a busy work spell affect your relationship?

• Not at all
• We meet less often
• We text more
• I go quiet

81What if your working hours clash with theirs?

• I'd change my routine
• I'd keep my own routine
• We'd meet in the middle
• I'd struggle

82What if you liked someone at work?

• I'd say it openly
• I'd wait for a sign
• I'd keep it out of work
• I'd ask once one of us left

83Can a couple work at the same place?

• It works fine
• It's hard to sustain
• If they're in different teams
• Not for me

84Do you tell people at work about your relationship?

• I say it from the start
• I keep it quiet a while
• Only to those close to me
• I never tell them

85Do you want to meet your partner's colleagues?

• As soon as possible
• When the time comes
• If it happens naturally
• No need at all

86How important is getting on with everyone at work?

• Very important
• Up to a point
• I don't care
• A few people is enough

87Who would you tell first if you were unhappy at work?

• My partner
• My closest friend
• A colleague
• Nobody

88What do you do if work calls on your day off?

• I pick up right away
• I look and then decide
• I call back later
• I never pick up

89How well do you know your neighbourhood?

• I know everyone
• I know the shopkeepers
• A few neighbours
• Nobody at all

90How would a relationship with someone in your line of work go?

• We'd get on very well
• Every subject would turn to work
• Rivalry would creep in
• It makes no difference

91Do you know the neighbours in your building?

• I know them all
• A few of them
• Only their faces
• Not at all

92What do you do when you meet a neighbour on the stairs?

• I start a conversation
• I say a quick hello
• I nod
• I hurry past

93How do you feel when a neighbour knocks?

• I'm pleased
• I'm curious
• I'm uncomfortable
• I assume something's wrong

94Would you borrow something from a neighbour?

• Easily
• Only if I'm desperate
• I'd be embarrassed
• Never

95What if the flat above was always noisy?

• I'd go up and say it
• I'd leave a note
• I'd put up with it
• I'd tell the building manager

96Do you make the first move in a new building?

• I knock on every door
• I introduce myself when we meet
• Let them come to me
• I see no need to meet

97How well do you want your neighbours to know you?

• Let them know everything
• Enough to say hello
• Not even my name
• I've never thought about it

98Does it bother you if neighbours know your private life?

• Not at all
• Depends who they are
• Very much
• They don't know anyway

99What do you make of a neighbours' chat group?

• It's very useful
• Mine stays on mute
• I find it pointless
• I don't join at all

100Do you think of the neighbours when you host a big night?

• I warn them beforehand
• I keep the volume down
• I finish early
• I don't think about them

101Would you keep an eye on a neighbour's place while they're away?

• Gladly
• If they ask me to
• It would make me uneasy
• No

102What does being a neighbour mean to you?

• A safe street
• Helping out now and then
• Just saying hello
• It means nothing

103What if you had a problem with a neighbour?

• I'd talk to them face to face
• I'd wait a while
• I'd ignore it
• I'd bring in a go between

104Would you introduce your partner to your neighbours?

• At the first chance
• If we run into them
• Once it gets serious
• No need at all

105Would you leave your key with a neighbour?

• Easily
• Only with one of them
• Only if I had to
• Never

106Do you go out to dinner with colleagues?

• Every time I'm asked
• Now and then
• Only if I must
• Never

107Which role do you take in a team?

• The planner
• The one who gets it done
• The one who smooths things over
• The quiet one

108What if you clash with someone on your team?

• I talk to them directly
• I keep my distance
• I keep it separate from the work
• I tell someone else

109What if a teammate dumps their work on you?

• I do it without a word
• I let it go once
• I say no openly
• I take it to the manager

110What matters most to you in shared work?

• That everyone pulls their weight
• That it's finished on time
• That the mood stays good
• That I do my own part

111How much do you speak in a team meeting?

• I speak the most
• I speak in measure
• Only when asked
• I don't speak at all

112Would you rather work alone or with a team?

• On my own
• With a team
• In a pair
• It depends on the work

113Do you claim your share of a team's success?

• I say it openly
• I wait to be noticed
• I give it to the team
• I never mention it

114Do you remember your colleagues' birthdays?

• All of them
• The ones I'm close to
• If someone reminds me
• Never

115Would you bring your partner on a work trip?

• Absolutely
• If they're invited
• I'd rather not
• I've never thought about it

116Do you take responsibility when the team makes a mistake?

• I take it right away
• Only my share
• I fix it quietly
• If nobody asks I say nothing

117What do you do first when you join a new team?

• I meet everyone
• I watch for a while
• I dive into the work
• I get close to one person

118Are you curious about a colleague's love life?

• Very
• I listen if they tell me
• Not at all
• I'm the one who tells mine

119Who does the preparing when the team celebrates?

• Usually me
• I rush in to help
• Turning up is enough
• I stay away

120What do you want with your manager?

• Something like friendship
• Respectful and distant
• Let's only talk work
• Let them leave me alone

121Do you post about your relationship?

• From day one
• Once it gets serious
• I hint at it now and then
• I never post it

122Who should post a photo of you together?

• Both of us
• Only me
• Only them
• Neither of us

123How often do you change your profile photo?

• Every month
• A few times a year
• It's been the same for years
• I don't have one

124Do you go through the old posts of someone you like?

• All the way to the start
• A few months back
• I take a quick look
• Never

125What if your partner doesn't follow you?

• It's no problem
• I'd find it odd
• I'd ask why
• Then I won't either

126Do you reply to comments on your posts?

• To all of them
• To some
• Only to people close to me
• I never reply

127Does it bother you when they like other people's posts?

• Not at all
• Depends whose
• Very much
• I never look

128Do you hide your online status?

• I keep it off always
• I turn it off when it suits me
• I leave it on
• I've never thought about it

129When you post a place do you show who you're with?

• I make it clear
• I post only the place
• I don't post at all
• It makes no difference

130What do you do when an old acquaintance's post appears?

• I leave a comment
• I like it
• I watch quietly
• I scroll straight past

131How many people do you follow?

• Everyone I know
• A handful
• I've no idea
• Almost nobody

132What do you do if a post gets no reaction?

• I delete it after a while
• I don't mind
• I wonder why
• I don't check anyway

133Would an argument with your partner show up on your feed?

• Never
• I'd hint at it
• I'd post a song
• I'd write it plainly

134How would a week off social media feel?

• A relief
• Boring
• No different
• Unbearable

135Do you follow someone right after meeting them?

• The same day
• A few days later
• Only if they follow me
• I don't follow them

136How do you feel at a crowded party?

• My energy goes up
• I tire after a while
• I wait in a corner
• I leave early

137What do you ask first when you're invited to a party?

• Who's going
• When does it end
• Where is it
• I ask nothing

138Do you go to a party alone or with someone?

• I go alone
• I want someone with me
• Alone if I know people there
• I'd rather not go

139How do you start talking to a stranger at a party?

• I introduce myself
• I start from a mutual friend
• I talk about the venue
• Let them start

140When do you usually leave a party?

• At the first chance
• After a couple of hours
• I'm the last to leave
• When I get tired

141What do you say to a last minute invitation?

• I go straight away
• I check my plans
• It puts me off
• I politely decline

142What if you lose the person you came with in a crowd?

• I call them at once
• I wait in one spot
• I carry on by myself
• We meet at the exit

143How do you cancel on someone?

• I call them
• I send a message
• I pass it through a friend
• I leave it to the last minute

144How far ahead do you start getting ready?

• Days before
• The same day
• In the last half hour
• I don't get ready

145How do you want to spend your birthday?

• A big celebration
• With a few close people
• Just the two of us
• Without marking it

146Do you hold hands in a crowd?

• Easily
• Depends on the place
• I'd be shy
• I don't like it

147What do you do if a party is dull?

• I liven it up
• I wait it out quietly
• I leave early
• I look at my phone

148When do you bring your partner to meet your friends?

• In the first weeks
• After a few months
• If they ask to come
• I don't bring them

149How do you feel if your partner goes out without you?

• Perfectly normal
• A little curious
• I'd want to go too
• It bothers me

150How do you feel when their attention drifts in a crowd?

• I take it as normal
• I take offence
• My attention drifts too
• I don't notice